We have the ability to make people feel brilliant or like total idiots in our presence.

It was hugely illuminating as to why all my romantic relationships were exhausting and unfulfilling. I couldn’t even let someone love me when they were actively trying!

…we need to express to our partners clearly what their behavior and actions provide for us when they do them. Doing that speaks to the part of their brain that wants to be of service to the feminine, that wants to show up perfectly and help make our lives easier.

He just wants to f*ck me. I hear all the time. But what if he didn’t? And what if…he did.

Don’t treat them like a transaction.

Hint: it’s not really about the blender.

Ask from a place of believing they will say yes.

The kindest thing you can do is to tell someone the truth.

When we feel connected and safe with others, we are able to take bolder risks. In our careers, in our community. We have richer, fuller, more vibrant lives vs. if we isolate ourselves and hide from the world. We can choose to make our partners our enemies or our biggest supporters helping more of us to come to life. Which do you chose?

I said, “I want to do something this weekend and I want you to come with me.” He replied “Ok…what is it? If it’s important to you then, of course, we just need to pick a day and time (classic masculine handling me, I loved it)”.

What I learned about surrender

This is a trying, undoubtedly unprecedented time. I think it’s safe to make the generalization that we are all distracted by worry right now. Sex may be the last thing on your mind or to-do list. Let alone trying to pull off “good” sex, at that.